Ever attacked or chased by a dog when you inadvertently stepped on its paw or tail?

Alright if the case is not that cartoonish, how about…
Ever bitten by your lovely pet dog when you tried to touch it when it was injured? How you reacted? Beat it for misbehaving? And end up its teeth sank even deeper into your flesh? Did you try to understand why it behaved in this way? Why it suddenly turned from an adorable puppy into an aggressive beast?
Yes, it is because of the pain. Such behavior is termed as pain-induced aggression – an instinctive defense reaction of animals to attack the cause of pain.
Likewise, primates like humans do possess such instinct to defend themselves from harms. Here it is more about the psychology of anger. Of course we do not bite when we are provoked or hurt, we are not barbarians. Normally we retaliate in a more civilized way – a verbal counterattack, which may further lead to a physical fight, when tension soars.
From the psychological perspective, anger is a natural and mostly automatic response to pain. It is a kind of aggression results as a psychological defense against threats, hurts and losses, which I call soul’s injuries. The type of pain does not matter. The point is that the pain experienced is certainly unpleasant. As anger never occurs in isolation, i.e. one does not get angry for no reason. There must always be some pain feelings precede, followed by some negative thoughts that trigger anger. Therefore anger is often characterized as a by-product emotion.
From the primitive biological perspective, anger is accompanied by arousal of the nervous system, which the secretion of hormones like adrenaline produces effects throughout the body such as the pupils dilate, the heart pounds, the respiration and blood pressure increase. This phenomenon is better known as the fight-or-flight response, when one is provoked or hurt. In such situation one either chooses to transform the feelings of pain into anger, to defend himself by retaliating against the target that causes the pain; or to avoid and leave, in pain. The latter often results one in misery, who suffers the pain alone.
Sometimes you may wonder: “What on Earth makes him so pissed off with my words? I was just saying… “, well think again. You might have inadvertently touched his wound lying secretly under his soul. When someone loses his temper, when someone is throwing tantrum at you, bear with him, for he is feeling pain. He needs to be understood and accepted. To ease his pain, you may apply the “Taijiquan” philosophy – to conquer hardness with softness. Try to understand the cause of his pain and show your sincere concern and care, that would resolve the tension quicker. When his emotion is calmed after feeling understood and accepted, he would probably regret his misbehavior a moment ago.
Lastly, not forgetting about yourself. Sometimes you do feel angry of someone or something don’t you? When you become the sensitive, easily irritated out-of-control one, you should realize that it is very likely because you were once injured, and the wound has not healed yet. It is your animal instinct to defend yourself from the cause of pain. If you are able to figure out your own wounds, then you will be able to cure them more effectively and hence become a better person, with well-managed emotion.
Quoted from Romans 12:20
“But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”









